Co-Parenting During Holidays: Essential Tips

Holidays are a special time for families. But when you co-parent with someone who is no longer in the picture, holidays may be rough for both parents and kids. Things get worse when the parents don't see eye to eye on co-parenting or are unwilling to compromise.

However, careful planning and communication can make your co-parenting experience during the holidays much smoother. Discover some tips and strategies to help you co-parent during the holidays.

Keep the Focus on Your Kids

Whichever decision you make as a parent, ensure it is in your child's best interest. Put the children's needs and wants first rather than focusing on what works for you.

Put yourself in the kids' shoes to understand their point of view. For example, suppose each parent wants to host family gatherings on their respective sides of the family. Instead of getting into an argument, it will be better to talk to your child and ask them which gathering they would like to attend. Then, respect your child's decision and try to make things happen for them.

Embrace Flexibility

It is okay to switch up holiday traditions. While some aspects of the holidays must remain consistent, you should be flexible enough with your co-parenting plan and embrace changes in your family dynamic.

For instance, if one parent cannot make it to Christmas dinner due to work commitments, they can still join virtually, or the other parent can take a video call from them. This flexibility will help keep everyone connected during the holidays.

Talk About Gifts in Advance

Gifts are an essential part of the holidays and will make an unforgettable memory for your children. Hence, discussing and agreeing on the gift-giving plan with your co-parent is critical.

Discuss who will buy the gifts, when they will be purchased, and how much money each of you will spend, and divide the gifts among yourselves. Make sure both parents decide together and communicate the gift-giving plan to the kids before the holiday season begins. This tip will enable you to avoid any conflict related to gifts or buying things the other parent disapproves of.

Create a Schedule and Stick to It

A schedule should guide you in managing your co-parenting during the holidays. It should be realistic, suitable for both parents, and flexible enough to accommodate any unexpected changes or surprises.

The schedule should include details of who will host family gatherings, which parent will take the kids out for holiday activities such as sledding or decorating a Christmas tree, and when each parent will see the kids. This way, you and your ex-partner can plan while minimizing stress and anxiety levels.

Remember to Look After Yourself

Don't be too hard on yourself — co-parenting during the holidays can be challenging, so take some time.



If you are feeling overwhelmed or anxious about upcoming events and tasks, don't hesitate to ask for help from family members or friends. Also, if there are conflicts between your co-parents, seek the help of a mediator to help devise a plan and resolve issues.

Communicate Openly and Honestly

Keeping secrets or hiding information will only worsen during the holiday season. Instead, be open and respectful when talking to your ex-partner, as it will help you establish a healthy relationship with them. Talk about sensitive topics in person instead of through text messages or emails; this will ensure that neither party misinterprets a message.

Co-parenting during the holidays can be difficult, but the tips above can help make the experience smoother for parents and kids. If you experience difficulties, let a family lawyer guide you through the process and provide legal advice.

You can trust us at Kalasnik Law Office to walk with you through divorce and co-parenting. We understand family law and can offer the right solution for your specific situation.  Contact us today and ensure a happy holiday season with the ones you love.